Have you ever told a white lie to be kind, to protect the feelings of others, or maybe to simply avoid stigma? You're not alone.
For some living with a chronic condition, telling a white lie can be a way to save one's strength. Sometimes it's easier not to share your unvarnished truth, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone else.
Have you ever found yourself saying any of the following?
1. "No, no. I can do it myself."
2. "I'm not scared/nervous/anxious/unsure."
3. "I'm fine. Really."
4. "Don't worry. I'm used to this."
5. "No, I'm not in much pain."
Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:
“I’m about to go crazy. Everyone else in my household doesn’t understand when these migraines hit. They act like I’m OK when I’m not.”
“I’ve found another way to find relief from these headaches—really talking about fears, pain, etc.”
“If we said we had cancer or heart problems or even any other disease, people would be more understanding. But people just don't get how debilitating a migraine is.”
Why do you choose a white lie over sharing your true feelings?
What do you wish you could say instead?