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Finding a New Normal: Living With Migraines

Posted on June 01, 2017

Receiving a chronic migraine diagnosis can inspire both relief and dread. It can be a relief to have a name for the misery that's become part of life. On the other hand, diagnosis of migraines can be upsetting because it labels us with problems for which there is no clear cure. Diagnosis is like suddenly falling off a cliff. Abruptly, the life we had before diagnosis vanishes. It’s the beginning of a new life path managing migraines.

Stages of Grief
If diagnosis is like falling off a cliff, then grappling with this new reality is like going through the stages of grief. The concept of the five stages of grief was introduced by Swiss psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in 1969. The stages represent difficult feelings experienced during hardships and traumatic events, such as the death of a loved one, a breakup, or confronting an addiction. Grief is experienced by people who find themselves living with chronic conditions, too.

The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The stages rarely happen in order, and many people revisit some or all of the stages over and over.

Anger sets in when we acknowledge what we’ve lost – suddenly there are new realities because of migraines: missing work and family dinners, worrying about medication schedules, running to endless doctor's appointments, and losing friends because they don’t understand why we have to cancel plans suddenly. Some days begin with bargaining and trying to live perfectly in hopes that the migraines go away. Frustration and disappointment about the chronic nature of migraine can lead to depression and sadness.


Relief (The New Normal)
An official diagnosis can be the catalyst we need to move us past denial. Relief slowly begins to creep in when this new normal is shared with others. Social support, from friends and family and from fellow members on MyMigraineTeam, helps you slowly climb the staircase of grief into a more predictable plateau – the “new normal.” Forging social support from others with migraines can bring perspective and validation. Walking through life with migraines isn’t easy or what we asked for, but it makes all the difference to walk this new path with others who understand. Have you found your new normal?

A MyMigraineTeam Member said:

This article really speaks to me. I've just recently found my new normal, thanks in part to this community. I think seeing how others live their lives while accommodating their migraines has helped me… read more

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